And now for something completely different!
Every now and then, I like to put something on this blog that is seemingly unrelated to Chronic Pain, Fibromyalgia and/or Invisible Health. I like to change it up a little as you might remember from Fun and Games.
Today, I’m sharing something that again has been floating around the Internet forever. I’ve changed it to encompass my Children, not just my daughter as the original version goes. I’m proud of both of my kids. They’ve each gone through some difficult circumstances in their lives and come out the other side better people. I’d like to think that advice like this might account for some of it.
Here we go:
❤️❤️❤️❤️ RULES TO TEACH MY CHILDREN ❤️❤️❤️❤️
1. Make your bed every day, even if it’s right before you get in it.
2. You don’t have to wear underwear… if you’re in an accident they’ll just cut your clothes off anyway.
3. Travel light through life. Keep only what you need.
4. It’s okay to cry when you’re hurt. It’s also okay to smash (some) things; but, wash your face, clean your mess, and get up off the floor when you’re done. You don’t belong down there.
5. If you’re going to curse, be clever. If you’re going to curse in public, know your audience.
6. Seek out the people and places that resonate with your soul.
7. Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.
8. 5-second rule. It’s just dirt. There are worse things in a fast food cheeseburger.
9. You are a woman, you do not NEED a man. Or Vice Versa
10. Happiness is not a permanent state. Wholeness is. Don’t confuse these.
11. If you’re staying more than one night, unpack your bag.
12. Never lose your fierce spirit.
13. Be less sugar, more spice, and only as nice as you’re able to without compromising yourself.
14. Can’t is a cop-out.
15. Hold your heroes to a high standard. Then, be your own hero.
16. If you can’t smile with your eyes, don’t smile. Insincerity is nothing to aspire to.
17. Never lie to yourself.
18. HER – your body, your rules. HIM – re-read that.
19. If you have an opinion, you better know why.
20. Practice your passions.
21. Ask for what you want. The worst thing they can say is no.
22. Wish on stars and dandelions, then get to work to make them happen.
23. Stay as sweet as you are.
24. Fall in love often. Particularly with ideas, art, music, literature, food and far-off places.
25. Fall hard and forever in love with nothing but yourself.
26. Say Please, Thank You, and Pardon Me, whenever the situation warrants it.
27. Reserve “I’m sorry” for when you truly are.
28. Naps are for grown-ups, too.
29. Question everything, except your own intuition.
30. You have enough. You are enough.
31. You are amazing! Don’t let anyone ever make you feel you are not. If someone does….walk away. You deserve better.
32. No matter where you are, you can always come home.
33. Be happy and remember your roots; family is EVERYTHING.
34. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
35. No one will ever love you more than I do.
36. Be kind; treat others how you would like them to treat you.
37. If in doubt, remember whose Daughter/Son you are and straighten your crown, and own it like a boss!
Share your thoughts in the comments…is this advice you would give to your children? What is the best advice you have given to them? What was the best advice you ever received from your parents, or the people who raised you?
Do you think any of these pieces of advice DO relate to having an Invisible Illness? If so, which one(s)?
The reason I ask is that I think ALL of these questions could apply to someone with Chronic Pain. For example, #1 – isn’t it nicer to sleep in a bed that’s fresh and cool and made, with the sheets and blankets “just so”? And #6 – we all know that stress increases our pain levels, so by seeking out people and places that resonate with our souls, we are filling ourselves with the kind of peace that can end up helping us heal.
Let’s look at #14 – Can’t is a cop-out. I’m sure we’ve all said we “can’t” do something. Is that really true, or are we saying we can’t because it’s too painful or too overwhelming? Well, can we try something different then, or break the task into smaller pieces? Can we ask for help? Are we automatically saying the word we can’t, without even trying first? Sometimes we do the “kneejerk” reaction, without even stopping to think if something is possible. If we give it a try we might come to realize that not only is it possible, it’s actually quite enjoyable and beneficial at the same time.
For #25, Fall hard and forever in love with nothing but yourself – well, that seems a little narcissistic but if you don’t love yourself first, can you be capable of loving anything else? I believe there has to be a level of self-love in a person in order for them to love other people. You have to know what love is, in order to give love away. And I truly believe that love is for giving away to others!!
And for #37 – well, I think that says a lot too. On your highest pain days, when all seems lost and you don’t think you can go on, sometimes you’re going to have to remember your roots, straighten your crown and own your life like a BOSS! No one knows you better than you and these are the times you have to pamper yourself like never before. Pull out all the stops on your comfort item list and do whatever it takes to feel better.
Go through the list above and see if you make Chronic Pain and Invisible Illness positives from the rest of the numbers. I was able to and even if you’re not a naturally positive person, I think it can be done.
There is always hope!